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Something to ponder.

Like the title says and most bligs are, this one is just one opinion. the folowing is not to be taken as carved in stone, but is just a courtesy based on one persons experiences. this post is meant to show some how lucky they are and others, what are some red flags that should be considered. this lifestyle relies on both parties being in agreement. there is no room for insacurity or jealousy. 

No two people are 100% alike, always keep that in mind. Communication is the key. There are several reasons for couples to enter into this lifestyle. Some are aelfish and some are based on two people with similar goals. I personally believe that if you love someone, you want to see them fulfilled and happy. I have been in this lifestyle for a while, I have even brought people in. Some truly embraced it and others went along falsely. that is the purpose of this post. 

First off it's natural and exciting to enter into the lifestyle. As long as your always upfront, thete is no harm. the interest your mate shows in the beginning may be genuine. or may have anterior motives. this lifestyle is not a fix but a mutual intrests. In the beginning, you may both agree. It is about experiences and gratificarion. we are different though. Experience for one may lead to wanting more. For the other, thay may have reached a peak and enjoyed what they experienced but that was enough. This is why it is always important to communicate. 

I  myself am totally upfront. I will not enter into a telationship without the other k owing up front that I am the type who wants to grow and indulge. I love to see my women fullfilled in every way. I want to share any experience with her. I am a voyuore by nature. so for me gb, mmf, ffm, group or orgies. Some hear that and run the other way. Some are turned on and agree. Among those who agree, some truly do and others only agtee out of fear of losing me. The latter of course, is the wrong reason. this person wants to think the other wilk experience it and maybe grow out of it. 

My point here is, chances are the other will not grow out of it but grow further into it. For those coupkes who are 100% on board with one another, who both seek the same fulfillment, you should realize how lucky you are. 

I'm gonna get to the point now. It is hard to differentiate between those who share your path and thise who go along in the hope of the other getting it out of their sysyem. what I found is, you can be totally up front with someone, you can lay it out that this is who you are and it's not a phase. They will agree but still hang onto the hope that it's a phase. So here are a couple of signs to look for.

First, everytime you attempt to set something up, there is a reason they back out. 

2nd, you are the only one trying to set something up.

3rd, when you argue, they bring it up that they are not enough for you. 

This 3rd one could be true if you never have 1 on 1 sex or fail to perform, so that may be a good way to spot a problem. But if your engaging in regular sex but the other meets the 3 signs, chances are you are with someone who does not share your interests in the lifestyle. Sex is a vig part of a relationship. Agreeing to something you are nit truly interested in following through with may keep your partner around longer, but it will eventually cause the demise. The biggest disapointment in this scenerio is not the one on one sex, but the realization that what you both seek, based on who you are and your needs will not be realized .  Then one person has to accept less than what they desire. That means that person is sticking around because they love someone. disregarding their own needs. Until one day they wake up regretting their choice. 

Point is, don't agree and do things just to please the one you love. because if what you do to please them is a sacrifice based on the hope that one day you wont have to do it again, you both are living a lie. Any relationship based on a sacraficial action, will eventually end. wasting both peoples time. 

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10.26.2016 (416 days ago)
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