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"Straight" men that are actually bisexual

We run into a lot of couples whose profile says that the man is straight and the woman is bi, but when we talk to them, they admit that he is at least bi-curious. Why not just say that on your profile? Chances of someone you know finding your profile and seeing that you are bi or bi-curious are probably slim to none. I know that we usually skip a lot of straight men/bi women profiles because we both want to have fun. Have you run into this as a bi single or bi couple?

You would be surprised how many "straight" guys are open to bi fun. I always say best to stay away from labeling sexual fun and just explore. Labels are too restrictive for me.

Is it still straight if both penises are in the same vagina right?

I'm Bi. And I let  others know it here. Its om my profile.

I think though that there a guys who say they are straight but will play bi when the time/circumstances are right because there are plenty of  profiles that say  "No bi men".  It certainly limits the possibilities when another man is  afraid of even incidental contact. Yes, I'm bi... but  prefer women  and understand no means no.

I agree with musiclife.  Being a bi guy (even just curious) isn't as socially accepted as being a bi woman.  A lot of guys aren't quite ready for the "are you a top or bottom" conversation, but they are still curious about oral sex.  It's easier to have that to have straight male in the profile, and it the bi subject comes up in conversation it's easier to admit that curiosity after a few adult beverages.

Nosinglemen DVP is our favorite!!!

I put myself as Bi in our profile.  I have no desire to be alone with a guy, but in a couples or group situation I would happily do everything from sucking cock to getting fucked, or fucking another guy.  Really Im just pansexual - whatever is fun and feels good :)

So we discovered pegging .. it is amazing. Could never imagine how freaking sexy and dirty and nasty it feels and how hard we cum.. she cums just pounding me.

I think it’s opened up a whole new side of me and have become so open . She is so open to whatever I am wanting and visa versa.. we want to share another guy or couple.. ( we have shared couples but no m/m currently have a g friend we play with ) but not sure how to even meet a single guy .. any body really done well on Kinkster ?

Am I Bi? I’m not really attracted to men but so wanna play with them with my sig other.. we are just totally open 

Principle well said it's not about being gay it's enjoying all parties there is so pleasure to be  had 

I'm not attracted to men romantically either Funcuple. I just like playing with another guy. Pegging is fun...but a real cock in your ass is amazing!

Personally I like pegging better due to the vibrations. But something about sucking a cock turns me on.

I really don't understand why a lot of males are do afraid admitting that the are bi it's just sex yes it's on my our profile that we are bi and I'm much more of a bottom than a top lol 

Yeah if you label yourself as straight but are bi or curious, expect to get overlooked from us. 

This has been a very good discussion. It has made me talk a closer look at myself and open up to the wife more. I enjoy pegging, but I am not attracted to men. But if contact or happened during play time I would not be turned off by it. The time and mood would have to be right and I would probably go farther. So I have change to bi-curious and will stop holding back and see what happens. 

You don't have to be attracted to men to enjoy the pleasure of same sex. This is why I like the hetroflexible tag. You can not be into men romantically but still admit that it can be pleasureful. 

It's a big step to suck that first dick. But after you do, you start looking forward to the next one. Parts are parts and they all give pleasure if used correctly. 

We prefer bi friendly.  But there is not  a option for that.   Doing a DVP. Is a total  turn on for me  and to see her face when she gets  2 cock is priceless.  And kiss her  after  she just  had  been sucking  dick. Mmm

But I  can't  see my  self  giving  or receiving.  And my wife is  ok with  recieving  only.  But prefers  men. 

So we are straight and bi friendly.   You  never know what  doing  to happen in the  heat of  sex.  And if you're  in the  lifestyle  we can't  be  afraid of  touching.  

I mean, I am a straight guy from a relationship and what I find generally sexual attractive perspective, but in a group sex situation I want it all.  I will suck and fuck whatever feels good.  My wife just mounted me doggy style yesterday with a strapon and fucked my ass while she jerked me off - It was amazing.  I don't think it makes me truly bi-sexual from a relationship perspective, but you better believe that if I could have a guy pumping my prostate with his cock while my wife is sitting on my face and sucking my cock ... uh .. yes please ... lol I'd blow my load practically instantly.

Omg did you just get me super horny!!! 

I mean, I am a straight guy from a relationship and what I find generally sexual attractive perspective, but in a group sex situation I want it all.  I will suck and fuck whatever feels good.  My wife just mounted me doggy style yesterday with a strapon and fucked my ass while she jerked me off - It was amazing.  I don't think it makes me truly bi-sexual from a relationship perspective, but you better believe that if I could have a guy pumping my prostate with his cock while my wife is sitting on my face and sucking my cock ... uh .. yes please ... lol I'd blow my load practically instantly.

 

Warning: watching a lot of straight porn can develop into watching Bi / TS / Gay porn which can lead to more interest in cock, balls and male sexuality.

Hey friends,

This is a great topic for me to chime in on. I've been bisexual for as long as I can remember. But I've also been a pretty traditional person so I gravitate towards being in intimate, romantic, or emotional relationships with women. Others guys tend to make me just enjoy a sexual only relationship with them. Not to say that I've not been in situations where I really cared for a guy. But that's usually because I really get along with a guy and we click as friends and lovers. 

So many men in this lifestyle are simply afraid to identify as bisexual. They may perform m/m acts on occasion or by coincidence. But to them, its no different than being "gay" and it's frowned on by society (still) and makes them less desirable to women. But there's a big difference in my mind between gay and bisexual. Gay, to me, means that you're only attracted to the same sex. (And I realize there's a million ways to identify yourself, which I don't get). While bisexual just means that you're attracted to both sexes, in whatever self sexual identity.

For a large number of us guys, our first sexual experience was with another guy. I'm sure there's research that confirms this. Whether it was a show-and-tell in that awesome treehouse your dad built or learning to masturbate with a cousin or just seeing the other boys in the gym shower. Then there's cases like me where there was technically molestation. (Yeah...it happens.) 

I think it's those early childhood experiences that form how we think about all forms of sex. Not just same sex acts but all sex acts. In my case, which happened probably around kindergarten, I eventually became numb to the normal guilt associated with "bad touching". It became "okay" very early on to touch others in a sexual way. Yet for some reason, I did develop more mature and responsible views about sex. I've never been into kids or had inappropriate contact with them. (They say that molestation victims grow to molest, but I never felt that way). 

Aside from an attitude towards sex that is extremely open and inclusive, I think I developed into a normal person, a good husband/father, and a man who respects the limits and views of other people. 

One thing that has really helped me come to grips is that in October of 2016, my wife of 28 yrs accepted that I'm okay having sex with other men. She knows why I'm this way, is empathetic about it and almost encourages it. Shes a bit bi curious herself, we just haven't been able to explore that yet. 

Prior to this, yeah I messed around with other guys without telling her. That manifested in a lot of guilt on my part and it felt I was cheating. But it was all because I too, despite that I knew down inside who I was, was afraid to tell anyone that I was bisexual. In my mind, everyone would call me gay, which im definitely not. 

What really helped in our discussions about my sexuality was that I had for 28 years finally convinced her that my desire for sex with another man had nothing to do with wanting to leave her. I'm still devoted to her and we're best friends.

Jealousy has always been a factor in our marital issues which have been many as with any couple. But almost all of that has dissipated when I suggested that we forget about cheating on one another and cheat together, if you will. It worked. We love playing with others but our only stipulation is that we do it together. We let each other be the sexual beings that we are. 

We are very discreet, but that has its reasons. Mainly that we have friends and family that we know would disapprove. We prefer that our sexual playtime be private, no matter whos in the bed with us or if it's just us.

A quick thought for guys here that are curious or secretly wishing to play with another guy...

If your S.O. is cool with it, try it. Have some detailed conversations and really try to define who you are and why you're that way. And then...let loose and enjoy your life in as many forms as you can. You only have one life and it's okay to make the best of it. 

Song suggestion: "Don't Dream It. Be It"

Hope I didn't ramble too long. Please feel free to discuss with me. 

Friends,

DD

Dandraper,

what a great and well thought out response.

Thanks BranJen!

My ideas about this subject are well thought out only because...well...I've had to think about them for almost half a century. And not by choice. They pop into head almost every day and, with people of my generation, male/male sex or passion is still verboten in American society. 

One thing I discovered in my coming to grips with who I am is that there are still tons of men who are married, with kids, normal hetero lives and sit every Sunday in the middle row at church, who sneak off to an adult arcade after a few shots of Jack to suck dick in the dark. Which to me is fun (been there; done that in so many different ways).

These men clean themselves getup with a handful of napkins from Carl's Jr. and hurry home only to find the wife passed out in bed from five grueling days in the salt mines...and that couple, married 20 yrs...three kids and a mortgage that never gets smaller who, while committed to each other, have lost what probably made them come together when they met in college; a passionate sex life.

As adults, I think that's why men have these nsa m/m encounters. There's no commitment, no talking, just a few minutes of brainless "nut". And once he's worn out the pages of the National Geographic magazine and emptied the bottle of Jergan's lotion he has hidden in the basement, who wouldn't want to have a helping hand or whatever from a real person? 

Damn! I rambling again. I'll stop.

Go suck some weiners guys! Its fun...

 

DD

All men and women are bisexual.  Ppl who deny themselves their true essence miss out on life’s pleasures.  

Hi gotto_betheone44,

I understand about not kissing a guy, yet still fucking or getting fucked by a guy. While penetration is a little intimate, kissing is very intimate. It's easy to think of another guy as just a human moving dildo, but kissing is completely human. I have been fucked by many guys, but I have never actually kissed a guy. I have thought about it, but I just haven't done it. I wouldn't rule it out, and my significant other might possibly find it hot (it's certainly hot when she kisses another woman).

I have been fucked more often than I've fucked, but I can give you some tips. First off...you need to lube your cock and the other guy's ass a lot. Second...you need to briefly stick your finger in his ass to use your finger as a guide to successfully penetrating his ass (I use that finger technique also when I'm penetrating a pussy).  I understand your frustration. Sometimes you are too high or too low to find the right place to stick it in. You get so frustrated trying to find the hole that you lose your erection (as you said in your post). Try the finger thing. It really works!