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Is it harder being a soft swapper?

Looking for the experience of the couples on this site, both soft and full swap.  Wife and I are a soft swap only couple, we have enjoyed a few play sessions with a few couples that we met on CL, but I'd say they were "hard earned".  We're an attractive couple and although not Ken and Barbie, we're both in good shape so I don't think that we'd turn anyone off, but it seems that the ads we've placed haven't gotten that great of a response and a lot of ads we've answered don't respond back either.

Sometimes I'm not sure if it's just harder to find people who are OK with soft swap only.  Any thoughts from other soft swap couples about same experience or full swap couples who prefer to avoid soft swappers?  

Thanks all!

We prefer full swap or group play....for us soft swap is just like watching a porn on the laptop in our bed...it's sexy but we'd rather be participating.

Yes it is so much harder getting responses from people. We are both straight and soft swap only so it seems we don’t have have much luck either.

We started out soft swap only and never did get around to a soft swap experience. After a few months we were at Mon Chalet one evening having sex together on the bed and all of a sudden we were joined by another couple and that changed everything as we did it all with them that evening. So we never did experience a soft swap

we are too a soft swap couple , we really did want to grow into this life style and experience all of it , but like all of the couples before us here , we dont get much luck in finding others to play with or the other women to do a 3some 

We really try to understand the appeal in the soft swap experience but it kind of seems to us kind of like going "skinny dipping" in your underwear!