Ratings System

The ratings system is a critical part of this site which is very underutilized.

The ability for members to vet other members is crucial to the success of this community, as it not only enables members to establish legitimacy for themselves and other members, but it provides the website (and the community) overall with legitimacy and a track-record for success.

However, the current implementation leaves much to be desired, and potentially alienates members from using the system.

Here are some reasons why the system does not work at present:

1. A 5-Star ratings system is not ideal. Nobody is going to realistically rate someone who let them into their pants less-than 5-stars, or vice-versa. (Case-and-point: are there any peer-to-peer reviews here which are not 5-stars?) Members are also allowed (rightfully) to delete reviews about them, but this also subverts the 5-Star system; would anyone really allow a less-than-5-star review of themselves to exist on a site like this? If people have a less-than-5-star experience: they are more likely to just not post a review than they are to post a less-than-5-star review, unless they have a vendetta and want to post a one-star review, yet that recalls the fact that members can (rightfully) delete reviews of themselves; the ratings system is thus, again, rendered useless. (Think about how worthless Amazon product reviews would be if sellers could cherry-pick their reviews.)
2. There is no option for anonymity. Plenty of members have met on this site, but not everyone wants to have a publicly-accessible list of sexual escapades and faces to go along with them. Some people don't care, but others do, and an ideal ratings/vetting system would encourage the majority of members to use it as opposed to alienating a significant portion; people desiring a degree of anonymity are definitely a significant portion of this site's membership.

To address these problems, the following is proposed:

1. Change the ratings system to the widely popular "like" and "dislike," thus replacing the 5-Star system. Another option is to use something like eBay's "positive/neutral/negative" system. (Note: this is not a proposal to add "like/dislike" buttons to every page; this is a proposal to replace the ratings system for members who have actually met in real life.)
2. Ratings are then sent to the member being rated for approval, but the approval prompt does not specify the actual rating quality being left; the approval is for verification purposes only, and merely asks if the person being rated actually knows the person who is rating them, and whether or not they met in real life.
3. Members being rated are also offered a chance, upon accepting their rating, to rate the member who is rating them.
4. Possibly include a few 5-star sub-ratings (like eBay sellers receive) which are optional, for example: "Ease of scheduling," "Personability," "Conversation," "Kinkiness," "Appearance matches profile photos," "Comfort Provided," "Likely to recommend," "Would like to see again," etc.
5. Overall ratings are displayed as an aggregate score instead of on a per-user basis; like: "4/5 users enjoyed meeting this member" or something.
6. Profiles being rated should have the option to reveal members from whom they have received ratings, or to keep individual conquests anonymous.
7. There should be a prose/free-writing option for users to be specific about their individual experiences (as the rating system has now), but this detail should be displayed at the discretion of the person being reviewed, and also should be removable by the person being reviewed. However, deleting this freely-written section would not delete the overall like/dislike review.
8. Also add an option to provide photos of "the event," which will also be subject for approval by the profile being rated, removable by the profile being rated, and visible according to individual profile privacy settings.
9. Members would only be able to "like/dislike" another member once to avoid falsely-inflated ratings.

I believe these kinds of changes would encourage more users to make use of the ratings/vetting system.

Please share your thoughts and ideas, and thank you for your time!

We are not fans of the 5 star rating system for pics/videos.  We post on a large amateur site and either you like it, favorite it, comment, or move on.  

You obviously want people to be posting pics and videos...  it's good for everyone really. Encourages people to feel empowered and free by the sexual expression of their choice... and the viewers get to enjoy the "product" which a lot of people like ...  if it happens to not be your "thing" (hairy vs bald, BBW vs waif-like, milf body vs young woman body, dick pics, lesbian/gay/transgendered, whatever) there are many others to choose from.  I just think it's counter productive to deter folks from feeling good about themselves sexually and possibly deter them from posting pics/videos.    

Maybe provide categories for pics/videos posted so folks don't have to see what they don't like??

or I think it should be you "like it", file it as a "favorite", comment respectfully on it, or click on something else for christ's sake.  

I will respect your (legal/consensual) kink, body and what makes you feel good about yourself, and expect all of us could do the same for everyone....  plus there is a respect or value that should be given (in my opinion) for folks putting themselves out there.. even if it isn't your thing.

Just my 2 cents...

The rating system has been something that has been debated about for a while now.

1. we are switching the 'star system' to a 'like system' all around - came to the same conclusion about being positive or keep it to yourself. We want people to feel comfortable expressing themselves and have a positive experience doing so. No one can be everyone's 'cup of tea' and i believe the majority of people respect that... Is like what they say about locks, they only serve to keep honest people honest... So switching from a star rating to a likes makes more scene.
2. we are working on a like system that will show who like your pictures and videos.

The recommend / vetting idea of people came from single women who wanted an easy way to find quality and safe playmates. we are going to refine the process, although, we have received positive feedback from from many single ladies who decided to meet up with a guy or couple who were recommended by someone else.

The ultimate goal is to make meeting new people easier and safer by adding a new level of accountability that has never been seen in any type of 'hookup' website. we want to make it impossible for people to 'get away' with and continue behavior that ruins the lifestyle for others; at the same time we can promote safe and positive members.

The core concept was to expedite the process of having fun. the women who helped come up with some ideas wanted a way the could just invite some guy over who has already been vetted, skipping the nonsense, just having fun.

With all that said this has been something we been trying to refine, want it to become very useful.

Couple ideas:

1. make the reviewer anonymous
2. switched to a simple 'okay' systems that people can give others 'okays'
3. remove comments and just be a simple recommendation
4. people submit a recommendation and they are posted by an site anonymous account.

overall we want a easy way people can see others have been vetted without overstepping piracy.

We always appreciate input from the community, and want to work with our members to make a better community.